|Moments after she was born|
I was inspired to write this blog when I was still in the hospital. I cried when I felt the confirmation to share our story. I hope our story encourages others.
Let me just give a little background by briefly sharing about Sophia’s birth: I did not have a great experience with Sophia’s birth. I was in labor for many hours, pushed for three hours and then ended up with a caesarean (c-section) because she was sunny side up – also known as posterior – and not coming out. It was a really rough experience and there were some complications for me but thank God Sophia was healthy and that was all that mattered. Needless to say my recovery was hard physically and emotionally.
When I became pregnant with Isabelle my doctors said I could try to have a vaginal birth after caesarean (v-bac). I was so excited to hear this. I started to pray for Isabelle’s birth. I accepted that we could have a regular birth or a c-section but I was determined not to go through both again. Early in my pregnancy I met some wonderful people that used an amazing doula. My one friend had a v-bac and she really encouraged and inspired me to pursue natural childbirth. Thank you, friend!
I got in touch with this amazing doula that two of my friends used. (If anyone wants to have a doula I can get you in touch with a wonderful person!) I had heard awesome things about her through multiple people. As my pregnancy progressed I started doing some of my own research on natural childbirth. I read a few books:
1. Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
2. Hypnobirthing: The Mongan Method by Marie Mongan
Both of these books really solidified the fact to me that childbirth doesn’t have to be so scary and that natural childbirth can be achievable.
I also watched numerous YouTube videos of natural childbirths. I noticed how all of the women in labor remained calm. I also visited the chiropractor to make sure the baby was in good alignment to help with the birth. I took pre-natal yoga with both pregnancies, which I highly recommend. I felt so great after class and it really helped me with the breathing for childbirth. It’s also a great way to meet other mommies having a baby around the same time you are expecting.
I prayed throughout my pregnancy but just days before I went into labor I surrendered to God. As I prayed I told him that this was His child, His delivery and that I hoped He could use me to encourage others to try for a v-bac. I told Him I trusted Him. I felt at peace and I knew if I went into labor I was going to pursue natural childbirth. If I went past 41 weeks I knew the doctor’s wanted me to have a c-section and I was prepared for that as well. In my heart though, my hope for a natural v-bac was very strong and persistent.
On Thursday, April 10th I had some contractions in the evening and Friday April 11th I had more contractions but they went away after a while and I totally dismissed it as Braxton hicks. Then on Saturday, I had more contractions as the day went on. Finally, at about 5pm in the evening I thought I should start writing these contractions down to see how far apart they were. At about 6:30 pm that evening I couldn’t believe that I might actually be in labor. I was still in total disbelief because I wasn’t due for another 3 weeks. I was only 37 weeks pregnant! Sophia was a week late and I had to be induced with her so I never thought this baby would come early.
We contacted my doctor and my doula (Shawna). My doula advised me to stay home as long as possible and to try and get some rest. I laid in bed and listened to my hypnobirthing CD to help relax me. At around 12am the contractions were between 3-5 minutes apart and I knew it was time to go to the hospital. When I arrived at the hospital I was 4.5-5 cm dilated. Shawna met me at the hospital and my mom arrived later. The doctor soon came in and tried to persuade me to have an epidural because I had a c-section before but I insisted that I did not want one. I basically laid in bed and switched sides and listened to the hypnobirthing CD. Pat and Shawna remained calm which really encouraged me. They really helped me through the contractions by massaging me to distract me from the pain. Pretty soon I was 7 cm dilated and at around 4:30am my water broke and I felt ready to have the baby, they checked me and sure enough I was 10 cm dilated!
I think I pushed for about 30 minutes (but it felt longer) and little Isabelle was born and the funny thing was she was sunny-side up just like her sister. The doctor said later that if she was a bigger baby she might not have been able to come out in that position.
They laid her on my chest. I couldn’t believe how warm she was. I was in utter shock and I had no idea I’d meet her so soon and here she was on my chest. It was a beautiful, surreal moment.
I had Shawna and my nurse by my side and my husband right behind me the whole the time. The nurses were amazing and really cheered me on to help with the birth and my mom even got to see little Isabelle be born.
Things quickly turned from joyful to a little scary for me because I lost a lot of blood. I could see the look of concern on the doctor and nurses faces. I held on tight to my doula and nurse and kept asking if I was going to be alright. Some of my placenta was stuck and the doctor really had to work at getting it out.
I prayed out loud in the middle of it all asking God to get the placenta out in the name of Jesus. This was probably the most painful part of the whole ordeal. Soon, everything was out and I was relieved but still in shock.
The good news is that everything turned out fine and little Isabelle was a healthy 5 lb. 14 oz 19 inches long beautiful baby girl.
It was an amazing ride and for days after her birth I just couldn’t believe little Isabelle was in my arms and no longer in my belly. I could not have done it without God leading me the whole way and supplying just the right people to be there throughout her birth. I’m so thankful He supplied the right nurses and doctor at the hospital.
If you are considering a natural childbirth or a v-bac please feel free to contact me. I’d love to encourage you. I know when you are pregnant you need lots of positive encouragement. You can do it, momma!
Through it all I know God carried me with each step…
This is a favorite verse of mine:
I can do all this through Him who gives me strength. Phillipians 4:13
I love how God can put a verse on your heart and then that verse comes up in conversation or you randomly hear it on the radio. After thinking about the beginning of the pregnancy through childbirth and even now raising a two year old and newborn I see God’s hands all over our lives. I know I cannot do anything without Him. I ask for His help every day. There is nothing too big for Him. He delights in us asking for help because His loves us. So, why not ask for his help? He loves you!
Thanks for reading!
****In the next post I will share some resources that really helped me throughout my pregnancy and delivery.
|Mimi holding her for the first time|